8/14/06 12:45 pm
Your Existing Situation
Needs, and insists on having, a close and understanding relationship, or at least some method of satisfying a compulsion to feel identified.
--My Explanation: I need someone who I can trust with anything, and that will regognise me for everything I am.
Your Stress Sources
Has an unsatisfied need to ally herself with others whose standards are as high as her own, and to stand out from the herd. This desire for preeminence isolates her and inhibits her readiness to give herself freely. While she wants to surrender and let herself go, she regards this as a weakness which must be resisted. This self-restraint, she feels, will lift her above the rank and file and ensure recognition as a unique and distinctive personality.
--My Explanation: I need people who are just like me, so they can keep me motivated, but yet I still wanna be on my own terms. I wanna let all my feelings out, but I don't want to be pushed under if I do. And if I keep some things in the it'll be better in the end.
Your Restrained Characteristics
Exacting in her emotional demands and very particular in her choice of partner. The desire for emotional independence prevents any depth of involvement.
Wants to broaden her fields of activity and insists that her hopes and ideas are realistic. Distressed by the fear that she may be prevented from doing what she wants; needs both peaceful conditions and quiet reassurance to restore her confidence.
--My Explanation: If theres a doubt in my partner I walk away faster then I walked into it. I want to be more then I am, but don't wanna be dissapointed when I don't reach that. I fear that things are standing in my way, but don't try to bring up my hopes up, because they only come up when you're not trying.
Your Desired Objective
Feels the existing circumstances are hostile and is exhausted by conflict and quarreling. Wishes to protect herself and hides her intentions to avoid exposing them to attack, so that they will be safer and easier to achieve. Careful to avoid stirring up any opposition which might endanger her plans.
--My Explaination: I'm sick of everyone conflicting with the things I believe in. I don't want to let people know what I think in fear of them putting my thoughts out there before I do, cause if it's something no one's ever heard, then I'll be completely me, and people will see me for that. So I keep my thoughts locked in on the important shit.
Your Actual Problem
The unsatisfied desire to be respected, to stand out from amongst her friends, is causing some anxiety. As a result, normal gregariousness is suppressed and she refuses to allow herself to become involved, or to participate with others in their ordinary activities.
--My Explaination: I wanna be the one who is regognised for being the eccentric one, but it's stressful. Therefore I don't participate in normal things?